Most people never get to realize that men do sacrifice a lot of their personal ambitions and fulfilment on the altar of taking care of others: Aging parents, their spouses, the children and their bosses. Right at this moment in time, there is a man out some place, and perhaps many of them, who are feeling frustrated and devastated because they are not able to create the kind of life they would want for their families.
One of the greatest undoing for many of us men is the unwillingness to ask for help. We are a breed of loners trained to suffer stoically in silence to the very end. We have been programmed by the society and the media that to be a real man, you have to be macho and act tough. As a result, many men never get to express vulnerability and they suffer in silence.
By the time a man decides to ask for help, he has to go to war against many generations of genetic programming. As men, we have to learn how to deal with our real pain to deflect our emotional discomfort. Asking for emotional and psychological help does not imply weakness. Asking for help doesn’t mean that you are weak; it means that you want to remain strong. Do not become too arrogant to admit that you need help. Don’t get stuck in your pride. Don’t die in silence: Reach out to somebody.
In the book titled ‘The Maze of Masculinity’ Kigwa Stephen has put together some valuable insight that will give your soul a majestic uplift. You can order an e-copy from our online bookshop on www.mskigwa.com If you prefer a hard copy, we can have it delivered to you.